The Pronouncement is the usually-simple statement saying you are “husband and wife,” “partners for life,” or whatever you’d like to call your newly-married relationship. Some officiants/ministers add what makes them able to pronounce this: ordination from a certain religion, recognition by the state, etc. Make sure to talk to your officiant about your wishes.
Yay! You’re officially married! Now for the fun part – The Kiss.
I know what you’re thinking: a blog post on kissing? Well, having stood a only couple of feet away from the most public of “public displays of affection,” I have some tips for you:
First, PRACTICE YOUR KISS. Yes, you read that right. And it’s probably the best part of wedding planning. Just like you want to know everything an officiant or minister is going to say, and where everyone is going to stand, you want to have your first official kiss down to a science. If you try to be coy and go for a peck, it’s kind of a let down (“That’s it? After all those words of love and they barely touched lips?!”). However, don’t go too far the other way, slobbering all over each other and having your guests wish you’d gotten a room already. So try to find a happy middle, a nice, two second-long kiss so everyone can “woo!” and clap, and so your photographer gets a lovely picture.
Second, if your officiant doesn’t know, make sure they step to the side during your kiss. A quick internet search will show you picture after picture of a newlywed couple kissing, and a tiny officiant face peeking between the necks. It’s creepy! Once your officiant has said, “You may kiss,” give him or her a second to step to one side, then go in for your romantic, two-second kiss. That way, your photographer can go in for a close up without worrying about “officiant face” poking through and ruining the shot.
The final piece of the wedding ceremony puzzle is the Introduction to Guests, which I’ll cover next week. Then, in coming weeks, I’ll cover some ancient, fun, and modern rituals that can truly make your ceremony memorable.
– Reverend Meghan Gurley